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Positive Reinforcement Versus Negative/Punitive Reinforcement.

Categories: Parenting 101|

Parents are responsible for the well-being of their children on a variety of levels. This includes teaching them how to properly observe rules that keep them safe, support strong communities, and help them grow into productive adults who can work with others to achieve common goals. When a child misbehaves or chooses to ignore these rules, parents need to institute punitive measures to correct the behavior. There is an endless list of parenting philosophies that claim to show parents how to discipline their children in the most effective way. Methods range from emotional coaching techniques that encourage children to recognize and logically analyze their feelings to old-fashioned corporeal punishments like spankings. In [...]

Child Raising vs Parenting: What’s the Difference and Why it Matters

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In some ways, being a parent is like planting a garden. The way you approach your task dictates your possible results. The more positive energy you put into your goal, the more likely you are to be rewarded with strong and healthy fruit. Most modern parenting advice falls into two categories: child raising and parenting. While these terms are often used interchangeably, they acutally represent two diametrically opposed viewpoints. In the garden analogy, these farmers will find themselves with vastly different results at harvest time. Child Raising vs Parenting: What's the Difference? In the early 20th century, child psychology was limited to its effects on a child's social behavior. Issues of hygiene, [...]

Why Do They Whine? 5 Ways to Change the Behavior

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Whining is a problem for almost every parent. When children don’t get their way, whining is often a last-ditch effort to get you to change your mind. Those long, high-pitched protests from your child can instantly raise the blood pressure of even the most patient guardian. Uncontrolled, these displays can spread stress through the entire family unit, causing disruptive behaviors in siblings and tension between adult members. But WHY???? When a child whines, they are asking for attention. They need your help. For younger children and those with limited verbal skills, it can be difficult to clearly express a need or desire. When the squealing starts, it’s important to find the root [...]

The Importance of Connecting Daily With Your Kids

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Today’s lifestyle is focused on electronic connections. The amount of screen time has exploded along with the information age. Studies show that teens spend approximately nine hours a day in front of screens. Kids aged 8-12 get about six hours of screen time each day, creating a society that is being raised in a digital environment. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends no more than one hour a day in front of screens for children aged 2-5. However, meeting that healthy goal is challenging. The technology explosion means that connecting with your children is more important than ever. Without a strong foundation of parental connection, your kids won’t be able to develop the ability to [...]

The Parent Timeout: What to Do When Your Emotions are Out of Control

Categories: Parenting Self-Care|

Parenting is an emotional job. We love our children and want to share only good feelings with them. Sometimes, however, we have to choose to be a parent before being friends with our children. This can mean annoyance, anger, or even resentment. When parents are confronted with big emotions, taking a parental time-out can restore perspective and create the mental space needed to resolve issues with your child. What Is a Parental Time-Out? When our children are unable to control their emotions, we send them to time-out. This short period of seclusion lets them calm down and readjust. Similarly, a parental time-out lets parents relax and regroup. A little separation from the [...]

5 Ways to Help Your Child Build Good Judgement

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Judgment is the psychological ability to think critically about life experiences. After evaluating events, encounters and other bits of information, we use our judgment to draw conclusions. Good judgment leads to conclusions that encourage continued growth and overall well-being. Questionable judgment skills can lead us into dangerous or unhealthy situations that stunt our ability to live fully. Parents can help their children develop strong critical thinking skills and a positive frame of mind. These qualities will lead to good judgments that contribute to success in most areas of life. Five Ways to Foster Good Judgment Skills Include these techniques in your family’s routine to improve your child’s ability to make good decisions. Establish [...]

Social Skills 101: What they are and how to cultivate them

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People of all ages benefit from good interpersonal skills at home, school, in the workplace and any other situation that requires a team effort. Children who lack social skills have a hard time relating to others and might struggle to contribute meaningfully to a group. This can lead to social rejection, which negatively impacts the emotional, cognitive and physical health of the child. A study from the University of Arizona found conclusive links between poor social skill development and depression. Parents can help children develop the social skills needed to make good decisions and create nurturing relationships. What Are Social Skills? Socials skills are the mental abilities that allow people to interact with each [...]

10 Ways to Make the Switch From Summer to School

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Playtime is just as important as classroom time. Researchers have found that play improves memory and encourages the growth of the cerebral cortex, the part of the brain associated with perception and reasoning. If you find the right summer activities for families, your child will continue to learn while on academic vacation and avoid the dreaded summer slide. Here are 10 ways you can help your family switch from summer mode before the first day of school. Take Control of Time Get back to a regular bedtime. It could take 2-3 weeks to readjust to schedule. Re-establish morning routines. Use visual charts to guide children through morning grooming and chores. Make sure [...]

Everything Your Child Needs to Know About Everyday Emotions

Categories: Parenting 101, Parenting Self-Care|

Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify feelings in ourselves and others. It also involves knowing how to manage your emotions and appropriately respond to others. High levels of emotional intelligence enable us to build strong and meaningful relationships. Successful management of emotions has also been linked to improved physical health, better long-term mental health, and increased chances of success in a career. How can parents help their children develop this important quality? Daily Habits for High Emotional Intelligence Like other types of intelligence, emotional intelligence is a skill that can be learned. Use these tips to guide your children to a better understanding of themselves and the people around them. Encourage [...]

How to Use Mindful Parenting for a Seamless Back to School Transition

Categories: Mindfulness Parenting For All|

The start of a new school year is filled with apprehension, excitement, and the heady possibility of mental and emotional growth. However, this excitement can quickly turn to fear, anxiety, and behavioral issues for some children. When little ones get stressed out, busy parents often find it difficult to find enough energy and emotional restraint to respond with loving guidance. If left unexamined, small problems that present themselves at the start of the school year can warp and grow into huge disruptions that endanger the long-term success and happiness of the child. Mindful parenting techniques are the perfect tool in the battle against the new school year blues. Using active listening powered [...]

3 Ways to Manage Yourself on Bad Days

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Stress is a fact of modern adult life. The energy needed to maintain a career, home, family, and social life can be difficult to gather some days. When your personal reserves are running low, your relationships suffer. In addition to a number of serious physical symptoms, stress contributes to anxiety, anger, irritability, and depression. When you’re overwhelmed with these emotions, the normal antics and issues your child participates in could be just enough to send you into an adult tantrum. It’s normal to encounter feelings of stress from time to time. However, it's important to know how to manage the effects so that your negative emotions don’t compromise your relationship with your children. [...]

Teenagers, Anxiety, and Screens: Two Challenges that Face Today’s Teens and How to Overcome Them

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According to a recent study of 688 university students, over a third of participants reported feelings of fatigue, loss of sleep quality, and increases in anxiety and depression from overuse of smartphones. Younger people whose brains are still developing are at even more risk of negative effects from screen addiction. What signs should parents look for that their teen is suffering from anxiety? How can parents help their children overcome these problems? Symptoms of Anxiety The Anxiety and Depression Association of America estimates that 18.1% of the adult population in this country suffers from anxiety. Even though this condition affects millions of people, it is still misunderstood by the general public. These [...]