The holiday season is everyone’s favorite time of year. All of the lights, food, and festivities tantalize our senses and invoke feelings of playful merriment despite the cold weather.
As adults, we know that celebrations for Halloween, Thanksgiving, and Christmas are about appreciating and enjoying the comforts of home and family. Young children, however, often don’t learn this lesson until much later in life. If asked, most children would say that holidays, birthdays and other special occasions are all about presents.
This obsession with stuff can negatively impact a child’s emotional development. According to child psychologists, children who grow up believing material things will make them happy are more prone to depression, social pathology, and other mood disorders.
How can parents help children develop a more balanced view of gift-giving and holidays?
Children are big business. Every year, advertisers spend between $15 and $17 billion to woo your children into wanting their products. Combat consumerism by teaching your children some basic critical thinking skills.
Children who understand how advertisements influence their thinking are less likely to blindly accept the message.
Create a New Focus
Give your children something besides presents to look forward to during the holidays.
Emphasize family and experience over presents to encourage a healthier view of holiday exchanges.
True Happiness Through Giving
Teaching your child to enjoy giving and sharing with others offers a variety of psychological benefits.
By teaching our children to value people and experience over possessions, we can overcome the effects of uncontrolled consumerism.
--Deanna Cupo, MSW
Statistics show that one out of every four school children in the United States has been bullied. Prolonged and unchecked, bullying can contribute to depression, anxiety, and other emotional problems for the victim. In extreme cases, bullying can lead to thoughts of suicide.
For a parent trying to help their child deal with bullies, it’s important to get the facts when deciding the best course of action.
What Is Bullying?
Bullying is defined as aggressive behavior between children. This behavior has two distinguishing features:
The aggressor uses their power to control another child. Types of bullying include verbal, physical, and cyber-bullying.
Peer conflict is a natural part of child development and should not be confused with bullying. Bullying is not:
What Can a Parent Do?
Our parental instincts tell us to use whatever power we have to protect our offspring. But instead of immediately calling a meeting of every teacher, parent, and school administrator involved, use the opportunity to teach your child some important life skills.
What Can a Child Do?
Some simple self-defense techniques can help your child protect themselves if confronted by bullies.
Challenge bullies with boundaries, self-respect, and a strong support system to protect your child’s emotional health.
1. A Child is a Privilege.
It is a privilege that this child — this bundle of joy — has come through you and arrived in your house. Children are not your property; they do not belong to you. Just see how to enjoy, nurture, and support them. Don’t try to make them an investment for your future.
2. Let Them Be.
Let them become whatever they have to become. Don’t try to mold them according to your understanding of life. Your child need not do what you did in your life. Your child should do something that you did not even dare to think in your life. Only then will the world progress.
3. True Love.
People misunderstand that loving their children is to cater to whatever they ask for. If you get them everything they ask for, it is stupidity. When you are loving, you can do just whatever is needed. When you truly love someone , you are willing to be unpopular and still do what is best for them.
4. There’s No Hurry to Grow Up.
It is very important a child remains a child; there is no hurry to make him into an adult because you can’t reverse it later. When he is a child and he behaves like a child, it is wonderful. When he becomes an adult and behaves like a child, that is bad. There is no hurry for a child to become an adult.
5. It is Time To Learn, Not Teach.
What do you know about life to teach your children? A few survival tricks are the only things you can teach. Please compare yourself with your child and see who is capable of more joy. Your child, isn’t it? If he knows more joy than you, who is better qualified to be a consultant about life, you or him?
When a child arrives, it is time to learn, not teach . When there is a child, unknowingly you laugh, play, sing, crawl under the sofa, and do all those things that you had forgotten to do. So it is time to learn about life.
6. Children Are Naturally Spiritual
Children are very close to a spiritual possibility if only they are not meddled with. Generally, either the parents, teachers, society, television — somebody or the other meddles with them too much. Create an atmosphere where this meddling is minimized and a child is encouraged to grow into his intelligence rather than into your identity of religion, race, culture or nation. The child will become naturally spiritual without even knowing the word spirituality as it is natural for human intelligence to seek, the important thing to do is not provide standard answers.
7. Provide A Supportive And Loving Atmosphere
If you set an example of fear and anxiety , how can you expect your children to live in joy? They will also learn the same thing. The best thing you can do is to create a joyous and loving atmosphere.
8. Maintain A Friendly Relationship
Stop imposing yourself on the child and create a strong friendship rather than being a boss. Don’t sit on a pedestal and tell the child what he or she should do. Place yourself below the child so that it is easy for them to talk to you.
9. Avoid Seeking Respect
Love is what you seek with your children, isn’t it? But many parents say, “You must respect me.” You came a few years early, are bigger in body, and you know a few survival tricks, but in what way are you a better life than him?
10. Make Yourself Truly Attractive
A child is influenced by so many things — the TV, neighbors, teachers, school, and a million other things. He will go the way of whatever he finds most attractive. As a parent, you have to make yourself in a way that the most attractive thing he finds is to be with the parents. If you are a joyous, intelligent, and wonderful person, he won’t seek company anywhere else. For anything, he will come and ask you.
If you are genuinely interested in giving your children a good upbringing, you should first transform yourself into a peaceful, loving and blissful human being.
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